Well yesterday was not too great! RJ had more issues yesterday afternoon. I do not even know what set him off but what ever it was, I wish it had not! he was mad about something and hid in his closet. then he would not get dressed to go trick or treating. Things finally got better but not before fighting for a few hours first!
Today has been pretty good. We have not really had any issues yet! Yet being the key word there. He had a fun day at school and I went and spent the entire day with him there! It was fun, there was face painting, a hay ride, songs, crafts, and all kinds of stuff. I am saying a prayer that the rest of the day and night go as well as today has been!!
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Now is not a good time
I am new at this so I am not sure how I am supposed to handle it all! I have 3 loving kids, Sky is 16, Ma is 7, and RJ is 5. Rj was diagnosed with ADHD and ODD about a month and a half ago. I have known for a while that he has had ADHD but the doctors would not diagnose him until he started school. They just started him on his second brand of meds. These seem to be working pretty good for the most part but we still have our bad days! Believe me, today is one of those days!
I do not know what it is that sets him off but when he gets set off, watch out. He starts to throw everything that he can get his hands on. He hits, kicks, bites, pushes, and punches anyone that's around. He does not do any of this at school, only at home. I so not understand that at all!!
Today started off OK, not really any issues at all but with the drop of a dime, that all changed! Out of the blue, all of the sudden something set him off. He was taking out all of his violence on my husband. then it turned to my youngest daughter. He just walks by and hits her or kicks her or what ever he wants to do to her. I feel so bad for her that she had to put up with it but I do not know what I can do! I have spent most of this afternoon just crying! I feel so helpless when it comes to RJ!! I just do not know what to do that can help him!In the middle of his meltdown, he just stopped and started praying to go for him to help him. He kept saying that he just wanted God to come back to earth so he could see him and talk to him. All I could do was just cry with him and pray as well. Finally he gave up and went into his closet and laid dawn. He said that if I brought him his blanket, he would let me talk to him. I got his blanket and laid in the floor talking to him! He just laid there and closed his eyes and went to sleep. It takes so much out of him when this happens. He is not sleeping but he is on the couch just resting!
I have migraine's constantly because of the stress that I am under. It causes the whole family to argue because my other two kids try so hard to understand and deal with everything but they do not know how to handle it all. Of course the only thing that they know to do is act out. I just feel lost! I feel like My other kids are missing out because of the time that I have to take to deal with him. I do not want them to resent him for this condition and I do not want them to hate or resent me for it either! My family is my world and I love them with all of my heart.
I quit smoking a little over 4 years ago and sometimes I think that I need to start back just to help my stress level. My husband also quit about 2 months ago but when times get bad, he has one. I get mad but that's how he handles it.
I am in school for photography and I go online only so that I can be here with RJ and handle anything that comes up with him. I am doing really great in school! I have straight A's with a 4.0GPA. That is what I do to deal with everything! I go to the library, put on music and put in my headphones and I just get taken away to a place where there is no "I hate you, Shut Up, I want to die, I will kill you, or I want you to die and go away"! I had to do a project for my color theory class and it was up to me on what the subject was. I decided to do a piece inspired by RJ! I do not know what it is like to be RJ and deal with all of this so I made a piece to show what I think its like for him!
Here is my project that I turned in! I think that it shows how he must feel going through everyday life!
I want to understand him and help him as much as I can!
Please let me know if you have any ideas on things that we can do to make everything a little easier!
I do not know what it is that sets him off but when he gets set off, watch out. He starts to throw everything that he can get his hands on. He hits, kicks, bites, pushes, and punches anyone that's around. He does not do any of this at school, only at home. I so not understand that at all!!
Today started off OK, not really any issues at all but with the drop of a dime, that all changed! Out of the blue, all of the sudden something set him off. He was taking out all of his violence on my husband. then it turned to my youngest daughter. He just walks by and hits her or kicks her or what ever he wants to do to her. I feel so bad for her that she had to put up with it but I do not know what I can do! I have spent most of this afternoon just crying! I feel so helpless when it comes to RJ!! I just do not know what to do that can help him!In the middle of his meltdown, he just stopped and started praying to go for him to help him. He kept saying that he just wanted God to come back to earth so he could see him and talk to him. All I could do was just cry with him and pray as well. Finally he gave up and went into his closet and laid dawn. He said that if I brought him his blanket, he would let me talk to him. I got his blanket and laid in the floor talking to him! He just laid there and closed his eyes and went to sleep. It takes so much out of him when this happens. He is not sleeping but he is on the couch just resting!
I have migraine's constantly because of the stress that I am under. It causes the whole family to argue because my other two kids try so hard to understand and deal with everything but they do not know how to handle it all. Of course the only thing that they know to do is act out. I just feel lost! I feel like My other kids are missing out because of the time that I have to take to deal with him. I do not want them to resent him for this condition and I do not want them to hate or resent me for it either! My family is my world and I love them with all of my heart.
I quit smoking a little over 4 years ago and sometimes I think that I need to start back just to help my stress level. My husband also quit about 2 months ago but when times get bad, he has one. I get mad but that's how he handles it.
I am in school for photography and I go online only so that I can be here with RJ and handle anything that comes up with him. I am doing really great in school! I have straight A's with a 4.0GPA. That is what I do to deal with everything! I go to the library, put on music and put in my headphones and I just get taken away to a place where there is no "I hate you, Shut Up, I want to die, I will kill you, or I want you to die and go away"! I had to do a project for my color theory class and it was up to me on what the subject was. I decided to do a piece inspired by RJ! I do not know what it is like to be RJ and deal with all of this so I made a piece to show what I think its like for him!
Here is my project that I turned in! I think that it shows how he must feel going through everyday life!
I want to understand him and help him as much as I can!
Please let me know if you have any ideas on things that we can do to make everything a little easier!
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